The First step:

 Look at identifying behaviors

you resonate with

There are different types of Narcissists that you may encounter or be involved with. There are the individuals that have a lower cognitive function and no facade that are bold, brash, and belligerent making them easier to identify. There is however other types of narcissists that have a higher cognitive function and have an efficient facade that comes across as the nice man or women and often displays acts of kindness, helpful, and loving in public. This is why when you complain to others about how your being treated at home it falls on deaf ears. These individuals are a lot harder to spot especially in the early stages of dating unless you are educated about NPD. 

People with empathy can have bad days and say things they regret because of outside stressor's but do not continue after apologizing and change their  behavior.  Relate it back to the way you treat other people in your life! Would you treat people the way your being treated from a person your here getting some answers about?


 Narcissists do not self reflect because they do not experience human empathy.

 Their behaviors reflect this if you really pay attention.


Narcissistic Behaviors

-Intimate relationships-


  • Arguments that go nowhere. Switching it to your fault in some way.
  • Use of the phrase "you always" "your crazy" "too sensitive"
  • Your past is used against you
  • Secretive computer and phone use
  • Silent treatments
  • Snooping through your phone and email
  • Always late for things important to you
  • A room they claimed. You have limited access
  • Can't take criticism
  • Gaslighting
  • Outbursts that are overboard for the situation
  • False promises
  • Relationship vacillates, its good then it's not, Up and Down
  • Social situations - public face/private face.
  • Spoils holidays and birthdays
  • You are accused of false actions or behaviors
  • Contradictions, hypocrisy, and lies
  • Infidelity/ affairs
  • Blames you as the reason for their affair
  • Your compared to the ex or others in a bad light
  • Use of guilt
  • Takes credit for your ideas
  • Abuse of alcohol/drugs
  • Forgets anniversaries
  • Provides no support
  • Smearing you to friends/family. Your the abuser.
  • Reckless job behavior / Reckless financial behavior
  • Controlling with money
  • Denying access to food
  • Controlling your appearance
  • Controlling your social life

         Ex. using  guilt, criticizing friends or annoyed

  • Items go missing
  • Sex used as a weapon

         Ex. Amazing and often used to hook you in the beginning

         and refusing you when it suits them later in the relationship

  • Name calling: insults, not using your name, horrible nicknames
  • Physical / Sexual / Emotional / Financial Abuse
  • Porn
  • Flirtation with someone else in front of you
  • Not nice with step children or their children

         Ex- insulting, unsupportive, critical, physically abusive, not involved/ indifferent



   -Your Left Feeling-


  • Always feeling monitored and explaining yourself.
  • Feeling obligated to spend time with them
  • Underlining mistrust of your person
  • Does not feel like an equal partnership
  • Nervous, walking on eggshells
  • Dread going home
  • Wondering what happened to the loving person you originally met
  • Trying harder to make them happy
  • Your Self Esteem has reduced or is disappearing
  • You are exhausted from the drama
  • Questioning your sanity, second guessing what you had experienced
  • Fearful of your financial situation
  • Your indecisiveness has become worse
  • Loss in trusting others
  • Scared of loosing them
  • Scared of harm
  • Confused of why they left and ghosted you
  • Desperate to talk to someone about their behavior
  • Feeling isolated because no one seems to be supportive of you. They treat you like your crazy.



Intimate relationships are something you become very emotionally and financially  invested in and it can be difficult to see through the lens of logic.  If you have experienced behaviors listed above that resonate and you are looking for answers and open to learn, I have the experience and education about Narcissism to help you understand.

Toxic Familial Behaviors

Critical, devaluing, physical

Cruel with words. Belittling, Indifferent, consistently raising the performance bar that's never good enough. Also can be excessive with the use of intimidation, hitting, or shoving especially in childhood

Alcohol and Drugs

Use alcohol or drugs regularly not concerned on how it effects others. Causing uneasiness with family members to the outcome.

Interfering

Cause issues in your personal relationships by way of drama. Having to change plans to keep them happy.

Not keeping personal information to themselves.

Use of guilt trips

Use your good nature against you through guilt so you bend to their wants and needs instead of your priorities.  Instigate an argument through provoking and turn into the victim.

Gifting

Use gifts as a way to butter over bad behavior. Gifts given with no special reason like Birthday, Christmas,  or Anniversary

Embarrassing to be around socially or publicly

Usually does something to cause all attention on them good or bad. Causing you to dread attending family functions.

These behaviors you have been experiencing long term. The saying, "you can choose your friends, not your family" definitely applies here. This is the foundation whether you realize it or not has increased the likely hood of you attracting Narcissist partners in adulthood . Learn why book a consultation.

Toxic people in business or co-worker

Some of these behaviors described below you may not of thought of it as Toxic. It surely is.

 

    The business partner

  • Very charming, talks a good game
  • Once partnership is established tends to slip on a fair shared effort but bask in their status
  • You begin to see holes in their ability
  • Make reckless business decisions
  • You struggle to have a constructive conversation
  • You begin to suspect they are stealing from company. Either money, time or both.
  • Makes false promises
  • Vague with answers
  • Can be impulsive and Nasty towards others to achieve compliance
  • Makes demands that imposes on others personal lives for their benefit and achievement
  • Very difficult to work with based on expectations of achievement from subordinates
  • Hyper focused on achieving


 

     The boss or manager

  • Displays charm that is not consistent
  • Will openly complain and criticize other employees behind their back to other subordinance especially who challenge their control.
  • Not open to hearing ideas of others. Their way or the highway
  • Employees have a low moral overall
  • Will denigrate and individual in front of others
  • People walk on eggshells when they are around
  • Negative and Judgmental
  • Say or do inappropriate things.
  • Difficult to work with
  • Take credit for other's work

 

    Underhanded co-worker

  • Level of charm
  • Self centered
  • High regard for themselves and accomplishments
  • Always want to be in the know of what your doing within the work environment
  • If you share your ideas with them, given the chance they will present them as their own to other employees to boost themselves
  • Working with them has a level of difficulty if it does not accord to what they want. 
  • Will retaliate in an underhanded way if challenged.
  • Will attend events or meetings they were not

          invited too.

 

Significant life relationships can really effect your emotional health positively or negatively over your lifetime. Which is why its important to pay attention to consistent negative behaviors rather then justifying

"Oh, its just the way they are"

Every person on the planet is involved with a Narcissist in some way. It's just gone unnoticed because of narcissistic manipulations, lack of knowledge, social tolerance, and individuals excusing bad behavior.


The perspective, life viewpoint, and actions of an individual

with Narcissistic Personality Disorder is very different than a

normal individual. By understanding four prime aims of a Narcissist

and the different schools and Cadres you have a better chance

of identifying it earlier.


This empowers you to avoid emotional, verbal, physical, or financial abuse.


This is valuable knowledge will serve you well for the rest of your life!



 I would love the opportunity to bring significant insight

 and the answers to that burning question in your head:


Why are they behaving like this?


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